Conversations that Come from the Heart
A very dear friend and I have both faced the loss of a loved one over these last twelve months and have had to come to terms with everything that has followed - the emotional response, the heartbreak, the reactions and opinions of others and the need to uphold responsibilities throughout.
We’ve spoken a few times about our experiences and what we’ve had to face. We’ve probably seen more of one another during this time than over the past few years which can bring about a guilt all of its own but we aren’t letting these external judgements add to the weight of it all.
When someone we care deeply for passes, it’s a natural response to ask the question of whether we’ve done enough. Did we spend enough time? Were we completely present during conversations? Could we have made things easier?
Regardless of our answers, it can be a lonely path to walk as we grapple with the gravity of what has happened. I’m very grateful for the friendships I have to be able to honestly share these vulnerabilities.
Human connection during times of grief and sadness is just as important as it is during times full of joy. Having someone there to share exactly how we’re feeling offers comfort and support. It offers a safe space to bear our hearts knowing that we won’t be judged for our thoughts.
While our logical mind will always rationalize, it is our emotions that talk the loudest when it comes to grief and this is such a different experience for everyone. One commonality that grief does seem to have, however, is a way of bringing people together in recognition of being grateful of what has been and what is currently there.
In amongst all the sadness, we’ve both found ways of finding happiness in our memories by recalling humorous moments and the wonderful times that were shared. I fondly recall one such afternoon where I walked side by side with my Dad along a peaceful country road. We were westward bound admiring nature’s creation of a glorious sunset stretched out before us.
There were so many things on my mind that I could have spoken about, yet I chose to stay silent and just enjoy the time together. We’d worked hard for the day and seemed to share an appreciation for what we’d done and an understanding of what lay ahead. It is something I’ll always remember.
It is perhaps within these moments that we learn the most about ourselves and life in general; in the stillness and silence of gratitude rather than within the busyness of all the noise. Taking time for these reflections and connecting with those for whom we’re truly grateful gives a reassurance that comes only from the heart.
6th August 2024, Andrea Weber, Expansive Happiness®
Top image by Andrea Weber.